2023– Your Best Year Yet!!

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2023– Your Best Year Yet!

 

With 2023 right around the corner, I think we need to start chatting about this topic that can be a trigger for some people, resolutions. 

 

Do you set new year resolutions? Or are you in the other camp that despises them? 

 

I guess if you look at the definition of a resolution, a firm decision to do or not do something, it can feel a bit stifling and restrictive.

 

I personally set resolutions, goals, and intentions all the time. (I write about them a lot, too, as evidenced by this blog and this blog). I find they help me stay on track and help me focus my time and energy to get the things I want in my life. 

 

Since resolution-setting can be intimidating to some of you, I want to talk about a few things you can do to help you achieve your goals. 

 

Being realistic in setting your resolutions is the first step. If you never work out and say, starting January 1st you are going to work out 3 days a week, and have failed at this resolution in the past, maybe that isn’t a realistic resolution for you. Maybe start off by saying you will do at least 15 minutes of an at home workout once a week for the month of January, twice a week for February, then maybe switching to finding a gym you like and going 2 times a week in March. Doesn’t that sound a bit more doable and maybe something you can actually accomplish? The chances of you going from 0 to 60 and making it a lasting habit is very minimal. So if your resolution is to workout in a gym 3 times a week, break it down into manageable pieces and say “I will work up to working out 3 days a week in a gym by May.” 

 

Having an accountability partner can be crucial in helping you stick to your resolutions, too. Get out there and talk to people, see how they want to change their lives. I’m sure you can find someone with a similar resolution as you. Having your own personal cheerleader, coach, and drill sergeant can really help reach those goals. Who likes saying to a friend, “I can’t do that today because I just don’t want to,” but it is so easy to say that to yourself. And since your accountability partner has similar goals as you, you will be helping them as much as they are helping you. 

 

There are also a lot of free or paid habit-trackers out there now. Go to your app store and look at them. They are colorful, fun ways to keep you on task. For some, you can set reminders for different times. Some have widgets you can set up on your phone’s home screen. Some have counters to see how many days in a row you accomplish your goal. There are a bunch out there, so go find one you like and start using it! 

 

Another key to success is to celebrate your victories. Is your resolution to not snack in the evening after dinner and you did it one day? Woohoo!! That’s a win! Celebrate it. Go look in the mirror and tell yourself how proud you are that you did it today. Journal about it, think/write how happy you are that you did it, how great it felt to choose not to snack, and how excited you are taking steps to be healthier.

 

That being said, have grace with yourself when you don’t accomplish it. Tell yourself it is ok and one day won’t ruin your entire progress, but tomorrow you will be back on task and remind yourself of the intention behind your resolution.

 

Knowing the “why” behind your new habit can also help you stick with it longer. For instance, if I want to start meditating three times a week for 20 minutes each day. I will sit down with this thought and figure out why I want to do this. Is it because it is the trendy thing to do? Is it because Mike is doing that? Is it because it helps center and ground me when life feels a bit crazy? Whatever the reason, keep reminding yourself of that. The more your “why” is in line with your values, the greater the chance of it sticking. 

I have already started thinking about my 2023 resolutions and how I will make them stick. I hope that, after reading this, you will start to think about yours. If you need help in working through yours, reach out to me on my social media or at Steph@KoruLifeCoaching.com so we can make 2023 your best year yet!!

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